Developing Trust

 Trust within a team and family is vital! Today we have one of our team members sharing her thoughts on developing trust, Joy Pharo.

1 Corinthians 4:1-2: So then, men ought to regard us as servants of Christ and as those entrusted with the secret things of God. Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful. (NIV). 

There are three things to consider when you are trying to figure out if a person is trustworthy. (And can be great questions to ask yourself to see if you are a person who is trustworthy. Here are the three C’s of trust: 

1. Credibility: “Can I trust this person? DO they have good standing with others?” 

2. Character: “Does this person have integrity. Are they honest and true to their word?” This is the root of success or failure in a relationship. 

3. Competence: “Does this person follow through with their responsibility? Are they reliable emotionally, physically and spiritually?” These actions foster trust. 

In order for people to build trust in a relationship, there has to be honest communication. 

Colossians 4:6 (NIV) Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.

Ephesians 4:15 (NIV) Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.

Before we can recognize what healthy relationship looks like, let’s first look at what it does NOT look like: 

When someone keeps things bottled in or ‘doesn’t want to rock the boat’ it is a sign of unhealthy communication. These people usually push their frustrations and concerns deep down inside them until they come to the point of explosion. They may also use passive communication, or skirt around the issue. 

Another form of unhealthy communication can come on as too direct. You can see this in people who are labeled as ‘hot-headed’, using intimidating body language and tone with communicating. 

The third type is someone who is indecisive, speaks out both sides of the argument, much like the first person who doesn’t want to ‘make waves’. Their communication is often muddled and confusing. 

So what are some practices of healthy communication?

• Pray before any communication with your Team

• Speak the Truth in love

• State facts clearly

• Be vulnerable and humble

• Listen

• Find a way to a solution

Building Trust with a Biblical Perspective

An understanding of Trust, begins with God and biblical principles. The concept for the words “trust” and “trustworthy” are found primarily in the words for faith, faithfulness, and to believe.

Some definitions of TRUST

Verb – “pisteuo” means to believe in something, or someone; to be convinced of something, to give credence; to have confidence, to trust, to entrust, to rely on someone.

Noun – “pistis” means faith, trust, that which causes trust and faith–such as a promise or pledge; trust, faith, confidence in–such as the Lord’s help in distress (see the following biblical verse), a persuasion or conviction, that something is true. Matthew 8:10 records Jesus’ response to “trust”:

When Jesus heard this, he was astonished and said to those following him, “I tell you the truth, I have not found anyone in Israel with such great faith.” (NIV)

Adjective – “pistos” means trustworthy, faithful, dependable, inspiring trust, worthy of trust, reliable.

How to Facilitate TRUST

 Growing Biblical relationships is key! We do this by being a servant to one another through honor and communication. It is the only way to build a successful team. 

We must start by believing in each other’s character, competence, and goodwill. We need to root fear out of our lives and be free to openly disclose information and personal feelings. However, it may be scary to talk about those feelings if we were raised in an environment that did not allow open communication. We can create this atmosphere by respecting and accepting each other – even if we may not agree. 

As you grow in effective, safe, and healthy communication, it is encouraged to share valued resources and goals. But we must also understand that we must minimize the control factor in our relationships. It takes courage to let go of control and allow others to be who God created them be. This kind of Godly communication involves risk, opening us up to consequences that can both benefit and create loss, depending on how others chose to react. Do not be fooled, this kind of healthy communication also takes work if you want to achieve the desired results together as a team. 

And these principles are not just for those that lead an organization, or team at work. They can be used in family and friendships as well. In fact, they should be used in every relationship we have. As people of God, we want our relationships to show forth the love and kindness of God, exhibiting all the fruits of the spirit. 

So what are some practices of healthy communication?

• Pray before any communication with your Team

• Speak the Truth in love

• State facts clearly

• Be vulnerable and humble

• Listen

• Find a way to a solution

Building Trust with a Biblical Perspective

An understanding of Trust, begins with God and biblical principles. The concept for the words “trust” and “trustworthy” are found primarily in the words for faith, faithfulness, and to believe.

Some definitions of TRUST

Verb – “pisteuo” means to believe in something, or someone; to be convinced of something, to give credence; to have confidence, to trust, to entrust, to rely on someone.

Noun – “pistis” means faith, trust, that which causes trust and faith–such as a promise or pledge; trust, faith, confidence in–such as the Lord’s help in distress (see the following biblical verse), a persuasion or conviction, that something is true. Matthew 8:10 records Jesus’ response to “trust”:

When Jesus heard this, he was astonished and said to those following him, “I tell you the truth, I have not found anyone in Israel with such great faith.” (NIV)

Adjective – “pistos” means trustworthy, faithful, dependable, inspiring trust, worthy of trust, reliable.

How to Facilitate TRUST

 Growing Biblical relationships is key! We do this by being a servant to one another through honor and communication. It is the only way to build a successful team. 

We must start by believing in each other’s character, competence, and goodwill. We need to root fear out of our lives and be free to openly disclose information and personal feelings. However, it may be scary to talk about those feelings if we were raised in an environment that did not allow open communication. We can create this atmosphere by respecting and accepting each other – even if we may not agree. 

As you grow in effective, safe, and healthy communication, it is encouraged to share valued resources and goals. But we must also understand that we must minimize the control factor in our relationships. It takes courage to let go of control and allow others to be who God created them be. This kind of Godly communication involves risk, opening us up to consequences that can both benefit and create loss, depending on how others chose to react. Do not be fooled, this kind of healthy communication also takes work if you want to achieve the desired results together as a team. 

And these principles are not just for those that lead an organization, or team at work. They can be used in family and friendships as well. In fact, they should be used in every relationship we have. As people of God, we want our relationships to show forth the love and kindness of God, exhibiting all the fruits of the spirit. 

“Trust is the ‘miracle ingredient’ in organizational life–a lubricant that reduces friction, a bonding agent that glues together disparate parts, a catalyst that facilitates action. No substitute–neither threat nor promise–will do the job as well.”